Communication Problem with Co-worker - a plee

I am not very good at communication. It has put me in a bad spot many times. I tend to get defensive, and just cut off communication when I feel somebody his disrespectful towards me and accuses me of being careless or lazy.

This is the utemost insult to my ears because I am a flippin' workaolic AND perfectionist by nature. To be brushed of as lazy, unintelligent, slow, whatever just makes me really , really mad. To the point where I can't f* talk to, or even ear the persons voice. This is what I am going through with my production manager right now. She is driving me crazy. It's just too bad because I can see it coming back to bite me in the ass later. I try to be courteous, but I know she can feel my anger. She probably think I am an angry, unco-operative kind of person.

Please god help me re-establish good healthy communication before it is too late, because I know I am the one who is going to end-up paying, as she is buddy-buddy with the president of the company right now and it has totally gone to her head.

I am sure she doesnt' intend it, but she wants to appear smart and collect the laurels, climb the ladder, get more money, and I guess, she doesn't see how I fit into her plan maybe. What I can bring her. Who knows.

Please god, help me see her good sides, help me re-establish trust and respect, and truhtfulness. I do not want to get fired because I am unsatisfied and I can't solve problems. Or any other reasons, as a matter of fact.

I can work with difficult people without getting walked on.
Help me see the light god.
thank you